There is a species out there that is forever hunted but never found. That is said to exist but remains untraceable. That is sort by many for its amazing qualities and its rarity that it is now on the verge of extinction.
What am I talking about? Well nothing more than the idea of finding the perfect man.
Let me just ask you this one question? Are you perfect? Are you all strengths and no weaknesses? Are you all smiles and never frowns? Are you all gorgeous and never ugly?
If you answered No to any of those questions then why are you trying to find somebody like that too?
Now I know that may be a little exaggerated but hopefully you get the point. Just like I touched on in my post Mr/Mrs Right – Aint What You Have In Mind I explain that your idea of perfect may not be what you are looking for anyways. But what I am to get across in this post is that maybe PERFECT just doesn’t exist.
I mean this is ME saying this!! And that is a HUGE thing. Because I’m like a chronic perfectionist. High expectations in every area of my life and especially of myself. These character traits have its own strengths and weaknesses too.
N even writing out that very sentence that perfection does not exist is like killing me. Like seriously I think I’m going to need to sit down and get myself some oxygen.
But at the same time, finally accepting that, gives me the greatest liberation, freedom and calmness. Its almost like accepting that, means that I can finally breathe again.
So here is the thing that I figured.
Like forest Gump said ” Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know which one you are going to get”.
He was smarter that I first thought he was.
Because you know what?
Being part of a perfectionist is attempting to gain control in a world that you feel you need to control. DO you know how much stress that puts on you?
Here’s the thing that I discovered. I can’t control the world around me. I can’t control what people think about me. I can’t control the weather. I can’t control a lot of things in my life.
Yes I have choice. Don’t get me wrong. But there are some circumstances that are already dealt with me and its not longer trying to control what situations are given to me, its about being able to control how you are going to react and respond to the situation.
So all in all I’ve come to the conclusion of the perfect man and why he is extinct. Firstly because I don’t think that he ever existed.
Secondly because I think so many people are finally waking up to the fact that for the whole of their life they were so deluded to believe that he was actually real.
So here is what I conclude.
There is no perfect choice. There never has been and there never will be.
The only thing that is perfect, is that … this is the best and most right decision you can make with the current information and current circumstances that you are given.
And when you work within those parameters of doing the best that you can with what you have got, well it kind of makes the this whole concept of the perfect man … so obsolete and forgettable.
So yes the perfect man is going into extinction. But for once, I think that we may be actually better off that way.
Inside Scoop For Next Week: So Next Tuesday and Friday I’m having an “I Love Week”. Here I’m going to have a couple of posts that are going to cover the things I Love Most About ….. Wait for it …