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I can see nothing wrong with the Kitchener guy, everything sounds absolutely normal to me, I know many people who commited as early as that and I dont see any point in being involved with time wasters (you know, the kind of guys who need time to find out whether they are in love with you, they need time to find out whether you’re good enough for them etc etc)
However, I can see one quite serious problem in your relationship that has absolutely nothing to do with your Halifax boyfriend. Instead, it has to do with your attitude: Why do you feel the need to talk about him to strangers, expose your relationship in the internet and get “advice” from Brampton people who have nothing in common with you?? What makes you think that their opinion matters?? Your relationship is YOURS, and you should respect it, never share details, not even anonymously on the internet. You seem to be well educated, I believe you should try to value your personal life and keep it just for yourself and your partner. Speaking about it will only make Guelph people jealous and I dont think there is any point in receiving other peiple’s jealousy.
I hope you are still together with your Kingston guy, please keep my advice deep in your mind: Don’t talk about your personal life. Talking too much will destroy any chance of happiness.
I would also like to add that a guy with two phds and professional success is much more into commitment than any other Regina guy. His life is dedicated to his science. All he needs then, is a woman to support him. No time for playing around, no time for silly relationships. As soon as he finds the woman that can offer him nice companionship of a certain level, of course he will commit.
All those nonsense i read above is written about people who have never done anything serious in their lives, have no idea what commitment means and waste their times in useless relationships of the type “let’s go out for months and see how it goes”. Dating in Ontario for months with 2-3-4 people at the same time, in order to find out who meets your criteria and nonsense… No guy with a serious job and a serious educational background has enough spare time to waste it on silly dating. Being myself a woman with a strong background and several Durham friends in the same position, I can guarantee that.
Good luck with your guy, I wish all the best.
OP – no hatred meant on my part towards you. My initial “run away” comment is somewhat extreme and doesn’t reflect balance. It was a gut versus logical reaction. Please skip that part of what I saying and look at the overwhelming “be reasonable” advice being given by almost everyone else. My apologies if you took what I was saying as a personal attack. I may speak my mind, but I don’t advocate the tearing down of anyone.
Also, my advice was to not take things at face value but to question critically. I wasn’t suggesting that she “run away” but that’s all she hears. (Again, that’s because I think she knows the answer to the question may reflect badly on her). Only on an Internet blog is “Be Reasonable” considered bad advice. Thumbs down for critical thinking!
Craiglist Man Shaming
The other day I discovered a new trend that seems to be going around on the Internet. I know, when isn't something trending on the web, right? Anyways, this particular trend kinda got to me. It struck a nerve. It felt like a low blow. It angered me.
Now before we passionately delve into discussion on this topic with gusto, I think I should make one thing clear right now. I am not some anti-feminist looking to raise hell, hating on women, and gearing up for some movement. But I will say this, there are some dumb ass women out there giving you girls a bad name. That bad name, more often than not, when applied directly, comes out the mouth as none other than "bitch".
Now ladies, don't you get your panties in a wad. I know you're all just sitting there saying "Did he just call me a....?"
No. No, I did not.
Just some of you.
Back to the trend. They are calling it "social experiments". I, on the other hand, just call it what it is...man shaming. I encountered this video where a girl pretends to be drunk in public and is seeking help getting home. Keep in mind this girl is smoking hot and suggestively dressed in a tiny summer dress. I'm sure you can imagine how it went down. Please watch the video and see for yourself.....It's okay, I'll wait.
Now as a man, after viewing that I was offended. Why? Well let's see....to start, the bitch set out for the sole purpose of soliciting such behavior. I mean really, you're going to get what you're asking for. Now you tell me, as a guy, if a girl that hot stumbles up to you, demanding your attention, are you not going to be like "Damn girl! You fine!" and possibly make a pass at her?
No, she got exactly what she was after. It could very well have been staged as well. There was an instance or 2 where watching by-standers had their phones out, as if ready to call the cops. So what, you say? What's the big deal? Well the big deal is this...they had their phones out ready to call the police because what they were witnessing is not normal. Just think about it. They are in Hollywood, the slum capitol of the world, those people are used to seeing some of the strangest behavior. What they saw could be something that just doesn't happen, it simply isn't normal. Why else would they have their phones out ready to call the cops for a guy hitting on a girl? Just some food for thought.
Another thing that irks me is how the video is edited, as if only showing the ones where she gets hit on. She was there all day putting on the same act, where are the ones who were sincerely trying to help her find the bus? You damn well know that there were some people who didn't show the predatory behavior that she was seeking. Where were all those people? If this is indeed a social experiment, then by all means, I beg you, please show us the facts so that we can make the comparison as to how many men, out of all the men who was encountered, demonstrated the predatory behavior.
Bitch, puhleeaase! You ain't fooling nobody!
And then there was another video I came across, which actually precedes the above video. Both videos have gone viral, by the way, which comes as no surprise being that stirring the pot on social and human rights issues is the new American way. In the next video a woman goes out to record cat calls, men hooting and hollering as she walks by. And where does she go to solicit these cat calls? Why it's in the streets of Manhattan, New York, of course! Now that itself is laughable! Go ahead and watch. Again, I'll wait...
The Do’s And Don’ts Of Making Conversation Flow At Canadian Backpage Site
It’s finally here! That first date you’ve been anxiously waiting and prepping yourself for. Your hair is flawless, your manicure is pure perfection, and let’s not even get started on how hott you look in that sizzling red dress. However, all that primping will have been for nothing if you don’t have anything to say to the cutie kind enough to wine and dine you. If you don’t want your sexy appearance, the romantic atmosphere, and your date’s winning smile to be overshadowed by uncomfortable silences and awkward small talk, use these do’s and don’ts as your guide to making great first date conversation at Montreal backpage site.
Don’t Put Too Much Pressure on Yourself.
It doesn’t matter if you’re as suave and sexy as Angelina Jolie or as calm, classy, and collected as Duchess Kate Middleton. If you’re on a first date, there’s bound to be at least a couple of awkward moments. Don’t read too much into them. Putting that added pressure on yourself to say the wittiest comment at the perfect moment will only make you disappointed when that doesn’t happen at Toronto free backpage. Instead, try anticipating your nerves and channel them into excitement. It’s also important to keep in mind that this is a two-way street, and your date is probably just as nervous, if not more nervous, than you are! So, take a few deep breaths, loosen up, and go with the flow
Don’t Channel Your First Date Alter Ego.
We’ve all tried super hard at one point or another to impress someone on a first date. The urge to let them know just how awesome, fun, and stunning we can be is a hard one to fight, and sometimes we can be guilty of showing off our first date alter ego. You know, the one where you try to be as perfect as possible, agree with everything he says, and pretend to take an interest in all his hobbies, job, etc. However, it’s best to leave this side of yourself at Windsor dating backpage and let the real you shine through! Otherwise, you won’t be completely sure if your date is really into you or the version of you he saw at dinner. If you really want to knock your new guy’s socks off, then lead with confidence, honesty, and your true personality. If he doesn’t go for it, it’s his loss and he probably wasn’t right for you anyway!
Do Treat Your Hamilton Date Like a Date, Not an Interview.
More likely than not, if you’re on a first date you probably don’t know too much about one another. That does not mean you should give your date the 3rd degree and grill him like he’s on the hot seat. Remember that this is a Hamilton singles backpage social interaction and not a job interview, so let the questions flow naturally. You’ll find out all the deets on your new guy soon enough, so no need to force a bunch of questions down his throat. If a man feels like he’s being put on the spot or tested, he’s likely to shut down and cease all communication with you. So have a couple cocktails (not too many), start out with some easy small talk, and see where the conversation progresses.
Don’t Re-Hash the Past.
By “the past,” I mean exes. By “exes,” I mean that beyond gorgeous 6’ 8” tall muscular model of a man you used to date. No guy wants to hear about that. Let me reiterate that, no guy wants to hear about that! We all have “a past.” Some of us even have several “pasts,” but don’t bring it or them up while at dinner with your “present.” Who knows, he could even turn out to be your “future!”
Do Let Him Talk, Too.
We’re called “gossip girls” for a reason. We love to gab, gab, gab about everything and everyone. However, don’t get too caught up in hearing the sound of your own voice while on a first onine date at free Winnipeg backpage. A conversation consists of two people talking in a back and forth manner, a dialogue if you will. That means foregoing the drawn-out synopsis of last night’s season finale of The Real Housewives and instead bringing up topics that are mutually interesting to both of you. Also, it’s important to actively listen when he talks. Take note of what he is saying, not just of his beautiful blue eyes. This will go a long way in helping to cultivate a meaningful and interesting conversation.
Do Keep the Convo Lighthearted.
If you want your date to be called away suddenly in the middle of your dinner to attend to “an ailing grandmother” “a sick college buddy” or even “something that suddenly came up,” then by all means bring up your dream wedding, your unborn children’s names, and the list of men you’ve previously slept with. Not so keen on being left alone staring at your half eaten steak and the bill? Then stick to topics that are more first date suitable such as music, movies, hobbies, etc. Fueling a more lighthearted conversation will show your new guy that you are fun, easy-going, and someone he’d like to get to know better.