I can see nothing wrong with the Kitchener guy, everything sounds absolutely normal to me, I know many people who commited as early as that and I dont see any point in being involved with time wasters (you know, the kind of guys who need time to find out whether they are in love with you, they need time to find out whether you’re good enough for them etc etc)
However, I can see one quite serious problem in your relationship that has absolutely nothing to do with your Halifax boyfriend. Instead, it has to do with your attitude: Why do you feel the need to talk about him to strangers, expose your relationship in the internet and get “advice” from Brampton people who have nothing in common with you?? What makes you think that their opinion matters?? Your relationship is YOURS, and you should respect it, never share details, not even anonymously on the internet. You seem to be well educated, I believe you should try to value your personal life and keep it just for yourself and your partner. Speaking about it will only make Guelph people jealous and I dont think there is any point in receiving other peiple’s jealousy.
I hope you are still together with your Kingston guy, please keep my advice deep in your mind: Don’t talk about your personal life. Talking too much will destroy any chance of happiness.
I would also like to add that a guy with two phds and professional success is much more into commitment than any other Regina guy. His life is dedicated to his science. All he needs then, is a woman to support him. No time for playing around, no time for silly relationships. As soon as he finds the woman that can offer him nice companionship of a certain level, of course he will commit.
All those nonsense i read above is written about people who have never done anything serious in their lives, have no idea what commitment means and waste their times in useless relationships of the type “let’s go out for months and see how it goes”. Dating in Ontario for months with 2-3-4 people at the same time, in order to find out who meets your criteria and nonsense… No guy with a serious job and a serious educational background has enough spare time to waste it on silly dating. Being myself a woman with a strong background and several Durham friends in the same position, I can guarantee that.
Good luck with your guy, I wish all the best.
OP – no hatred meant on my part towards you. My initial “run away” comment is somewhat extreme and doesn’t reflect balance. It was a gut versus logical reaction. Please skip that part of what I saying and look at the overwhelming “be reasonable” advice being given by almost everyone else. My apologies if you took what I was saying as a personal attack. I may speak my mind, but I don’t advocate the tearing down of anyone.
Also, my advice was to not take things at face value but to question critically. I wasn’t suggesting that she “run away” but that’s all she hears. (Again, that’s because I think she knows the answer to the question may reflect badly on her). Only on an Internet blog is “Be Reasonable” considered bad advice. Thumbs down for critical thinking!
The other day I discovered a new trend that seems to be going around on the Internet. I know, when isn't something trending on the web, right? Anyways, this particular trend kinda got to me. It struck a nerve. It felt like a low blow. It angered me.
Now before we passionately delve into discussion on this topic with gusto, I think I should make one thing clear right now. I am not some anti-feminist looking to raise hell, hating on women, and gearing up for some movement. But I will say this, there are some dumb ass women out there giving you girls a bad name. That bad name, more often than not, when applied directly, comes out the mouth as none other than "bitch".
Now ladies, don't you get your panties in a wad. I know you're all just sitting there saying "Did he just call me a....?"
No. No, I did not.
Just some of you.
Back to the trend. They are calling it "social experiments". I, on the other hand, just call it what it is...man shaming. I encountered this video where a girl pretends to be drunk in public and is seeking help getting home. Keep in mind this girl is smoking hot and suggestively dressed in a tiny summer dress. I'm sure you can imagine how it went down. Please watch the video and see for yourself.....It's okay, I'll wait.
Now as a man, after viewing that I was offended. Why? Well let's see....to start, the bitch set out for the sole purpose of soliciting such behavior. I mean really, you're going to get what you're asking for. Now you tell me, as a guy, if a girl that hot stumbles up to you, demanding your attention, are you not going to be like "Damn girl! You fine!" and possibly make a pass at her?
No, she got exactly what she was after. It could very well have been staged as well. There was an instance or 2 where watching by-standers had their phones out, as if ready to call the cops. So what, you say? What's the big deal? Well the big deal is this...they had their phones out ready to call the police because what they were witnessing is not normal. Just think about it. They are in Hollywood, the slum capitol of the world, those people are used to seeing some of the strangest behavior. What they saw could be something that just doesn't happen, it simply isn't normal. Why else would they have their phones out ready to call the cops for a guy hitting on a girl? Just some food for thought.
Another thing that irks me is how the video is edited, as if only showing the ones where she gets hit on. She was there all day putting on the same act, where are the ones who were sincerely trying to help her find the bus? You damn well know that there were some people who didn't show the predatory behavior that she was seeking. Where were all those people? If this is indeed a social experiment, then by all means, I beg you, please show us the facts so that we can make the comparison as to how many men, out of all the men who was encountered, demonstrated the predatory behavior.
Bitch, puhleeaase! You ain't fooling nobody!
And then there was another video I came across, which actually precedes the above video. Both videos have gone viral, by the way, which comes as no surprise being that stirring the pot on social and human rights issues is the new American way. In the next video a woman goes out to record cat calls, men hooting and hollering as she walks by. And where does she go to solicit these cat calls? Why it's in the streets of Manhattan, New York, of course! Now that itself is laughable! Go ahead and watch. Again, I'll wait...
You know, I like to share advice here to enrich my readers’ lives. Just my own personal little service. A gift from me to you. I’m just nice like that. So, in the spirit of giving, I would like to tell you how not to be a bridesmaid.
First of all, you should not be laid back. This will apparently piss off at least one of the bridesmaids. I will explain in more detail later.
You should definitely not drink red wine all night and forgo the simple rules of hydration such as…. you know…. to hydrate. Water is not your enemy. You should probably also not start bumming cigarettes off of the mother of the bride in your drunken stupor. Because she will give them to you, and you will smoke them. You should also not take the closing of the bar as a reason to speed up drinking. You should however remember if your father is attending the same function, so as to avoid doing anything stupid in front of him in your fancy dress.
As a brief note to the staff at wedding type establishments, you should probably not hand sparklers to a crowd of drunken people. Won’t always go badly…. but it could so very easily.
You should not tell a couple of drunken male friends that you had a nice conversation with a guy. Because they will inevitably decide you should bang him and harass you all night.
You should not ever go swimming in the wee hours of the morning when none of you have bathing suits. This may result in you getting into a pool in your pajama top and someone else’s slip which you will then forget to return.
Apparently you should not begin a deep discussion with that bridesmaid you pissed off at the very beginning of this list. This will result in her telling you how abrasive you are and that you hurt her feelings. At that point you definitely should not apologize to her, no matter how much you would like to smooth over your dear friends wedding day.
At this point a husband of the pissed bridesmaid would like you to know that you should not fall into the fountain in front of your guest house. Because everyone will laugh and no one will believe it was on purpose. Also, you will smell like a sewer afterwards. Your wife will force you to shower before you leave for home in boxers and a button down shirt. She will also get pulled over on the drive home and that just won’t look good. (However, you should feel free to snicker if such a thing does occur. Because that is seriously funny.)
You should not use the bathroom in your guest house to wash your face, pee, or vomit. Because you will see freaky little bugs in there no matter which you are doing. Sometimes on the floor, sometimes in the washcloth, and in unrelated news sometimes dead in your bed.
The next morning you should not go to breakfast if you are not feeling 100%. Because you will get to the top notch quaint little restaurant on the property first thing in the morning and promptly start to feel not so good. You will then locate the teeny tiny completely unsoundproofed powder room which has just been impeccably cleaned. And you will defile it with the aforementioned red wine and lack of hydration.
You should then not imagine you are fine and get in the car with the bride’s parents to drive back home. Especially if the drive is over an hour long. Here is why. About five minutes before you get there, your stomach will get very angry. To the point where you have to let the parents know. They will speed up in an effort to avoid disaster, but it probably won’t work. Eventually your urgent need to empty your stomach will overcome all decency. Your friend’s parents will pull over in font of a stranger’s driveway. And, in a moment of complete fabulosity, you will hop out of the car and be sick. On a stranger’s driveway. In front of the bride’s parents.
I think we can all agree that it definitely a comprehensive guide on how not to be a bridesmaid. Hypothetically speaking, of course.