I can see nothing wrong with the Kitchener guy, everything sounds absolutely normal to me, I know many people who commited as early as that and I dont see any point in being involved with time wasters (you know, the kind of guys who need time to find out whether they are in love with you, they need time to find out whether you’re good enough for them etc etc)
However, I can see one quite serious problem in your relationship that has absolutely nothing to do with your Halifax boyfriend. Instead, it has to do with your attitude: Why do you feel the need to talk about him to strangers, expose your relationship in the internet and get “advice” from Brampton people who have nothing in common with you?? What makes you think that their opinion matters?? Your relationship is YOURS, and you should respect it, never share details, not even anonymously on the internet. You seem to be well educated, I believe you should try to value your personal life and keep it just for yourself and your partner. Speaking about it will only make Guelph people jealous and I dont think there is any point in receiving other peiple’s jealousy.
I hope you are still together with your Kingston guy, please keep my advice deep in your mind: Don’t talk about your personal life. Talking too much will destroy any chance of happiness.
I would also like to add that a guy with two phds and professional success is much more into commitment than any other Regina guy. His life is dedicated to his science. All he needs then, is a woman to support him. No time for playing around, no time for silly relationships. As soon as he finds the woman that can offer him nice companionship of a certain level, of course he will commit.
All those nonsense i read above is written about people who have never done anything serious in their lives, have no idea what commitment means and waste their times in useless relationships of the type “let’s go out for months and see how it goes”. Dating in Ontario for months with 2-3-4 people at the same time, in order to find out who meets your criteria and nonsense… No guy with a serious job and a serious educational background has enough spare time to waste it on silly dating. Being myself a woman with a strong background and several Durham friends in the same position, I can guarantee that.
Good luck with your guy, I wish all the best.
OP – no hatred meant on my part towards you. My initial “run away” comment is somewhat extreme and doesn’t reflect balance. It was a gut versus logical reaction. Please skip that part of what I saying and look at the overwhelming “be reasonable” advice being given by almost everyone else. My apologies if you took what I was saying as a personal attack. I may speak my mind, but I don’t advocate the tearing down of anyone.
Also, my advice was to not take things at face value but to question critically. I wasn’t suggesting that she “run away” but that’s all she hears. (Again, that’s because I think she knows the answer to the question may reflect badly on her). Only on an Internet blog is “Be Reasonable” considered bad advice. Thumbs down for critical thinking!
You know, I like to share advice here to enrich my readers’ lives. Just my own personal little service. A gift from me to you. I’m just nice like that. So, in the spirit of giving, I would like to tell you how not to be a bridesmaid.
First of all, you should not be laid back. This will apparently piss off at least one of the bridesmaids. I will explain in more detail later.
You should definitely not drink red wine all night and forgo the simple rules of hydration such as…. you know…. to hydrate. Water is not your enemy. You should probably also not start bumming cigarettes off of the mother of the bride in your drunken stupor. Because she will give them to you, and you will smoke them. You should also not take the closing of the bar as a reason to speed up drinking. You should however remember if your father is attending the same function, so as to avoid doing anything stupid in front of him in your fancy dress.
As a brief note to the staff at wedding type establishments, you should probably not hand sparklers to a crowd of drunken people. Won’t always go badly…. but it could so very easily.
You should not tell a couple of drunken male friends that you had a nice conversation with a guy. Because they will inevitably decide you should bang him and harass you all night.
You should not ever go swimming in the wee hours of the morning when none of you have bathing suits. This may result in you getting into a pool in your pajama top and someone else’s slip which you will then forget to return.
Apparently you should not begin a deep discussion with that bridesmaid you pissed off at the very beginning of this list. This will result in her telling you how abrasive you are and that you hurt her feelings. At that point you definitely should not apologize to her, no matter how much you would like to smooth over your dear friends wedding day.
At this point a husband of the pissed bridesmaid would like you to know that you should not fall into the fountain in front of your guest house. Because everyone will laugh and no one will believe it was on purpose. Also, you will smell like a sewer afterwards. Your wife will force you to shower before you leave for home in boxers and a button down shirt. She will also get pulled over on the drive home and that just won’t look good. (However, you should feel free to snicker if such a thing does occur. Because that is seriously funny.)
You should not use the bathroom in your guest house to wash your face, pee, or vomit. Because you will see freaky little bugs in there no matter which you are doing. Sometimes on the floor, sometimes in the washcloth, and in unrelated news sometimes dead in your bed.
The next morning you should not go to breakfast if you are not feeling 100%. Because you will get to the top notch quaint little restaurant on the property first thing in the morning and promptly start to feel not so good. You will then locate the teeny tiny completely unsoundproofed powder room which has just been impeccably cleaned. And you will defile it with the aforementioned red wine and lack of hydration.
You should then not imagine you are fine and get in the car with the bride’s parents to drive back home. Especially if the drive is over an hour long. Here is why. About five minutes before you get there, your stomach will get very angry. To the point where you have to let the parents know. They will speed up in an effort to avoid disaster, but it probably won’t work. Eventually your urgent need to empty your stomach will overcome all decency. Your friend’s parents will pull over in font of a stranger’s driveway. And, in a moment of complete fabulosity, you will hop out of the car and be sick. On a stranger’s driveway. In front of the bride’s parents.
I think we can all agree that it definitely a comprehensive guide on how not to be a bridesmaid. Hypothetically speaking, of course.
It’s finally here! That first date you’ve been anxiously waiting and prepping yourself for. Your hair is flawless, your manicure is pure perfection, and let’s not even get started on how hott you look in that sizzling red dress. However, all that primping will have been for nothing if you don’t have anything to say to the cutie kind enough to wine and dine you. If you don’t want your sexy appearance, the romantic atmosphere, and your date’s winning smile to be overshadowed by uncomfortable silences and awkward small talk, use these do’s and don’ts as your guide to making great first date conversation at Montreal backpage site.
Don’t Put Too Much Pressure on Yourself.
It doesn’t matter if you’re as suave and sexy as Angelina Jolie or as calm, classy, and collected as Duchess Kate Middleton. If you’re on a first date, there’s bound to be at least a couple of awkward moments. Don’t read too much into them. Putting that added pressure on yourself to say the wittiest comment at the perfect moment will only make you disappointed when that doesn’t happen at Toronto free backpage. Instead, try anticipating your nerves and channel them into excitement. It’s also important to keep in mind that this is a two-way street, and your date is probably just as nervous, if not more nervous, than you are! So, take a few deep breaths, loosen up, and go with the flow
Don’t Channel Your First Date Alter Ego.
We’ve all tried super hard at one point or another to impress someone on a first date. The urge to let them know just how awesome, fun, and stunning we can be is a hard one to fight, and sometimes we can be guilty of showing off our first date alter ego. You know, the one where you try to be as perfect as possible, agree with everything he says, and pretend to take an interest in all his hobbies, job, etc. However, it’s best to leave this side of yourself at Windsor dating backpage and let the real you shine through! Otherwise, you won’t be completely sure if your date is really into you or the version of you he saw at dinner. If you really want to knock your new guy’s socks off, then lead with confidence, honesty, and your true personality. If he doesn’t go for it, it’s his loss and he probably wasn’t right for you anyway!
Do Treat Your Hamilton Date Like a Date, Not an Interview.
More likely than not, if you’re on a first date you probably don’t know too much about one another. That does not mean you should give your date the 3rd degree and grill him like he’s on the hot seat. Remember that this is a Hamilton singles backpage social interaction and not a job interview, so let the questions flow naturally. You’ll find out all the deets on your new guy soon enough, so no need to force a bunch of questions down his throat. If a man feels like he’s being put on the spot or tested, he’s likely to shut down and cease all communication with you. So have a couple cocktails (not too many), start out with some easy small talk, and see where the conversation progresses.
Don’t Re-Hash the Past.
By “the past,” I mean exes. By “exes,” I mean that beyond gorgeous 6’ 8” tall muscular model of a man you used to date. No guy wants to hear about that. Let me reiterate that, no guy wants to hear about that! We all have “a past.” Some of us even have several “pasts,” but don’t bring it or them up while at dinner with your “present.” Who knows, he could even turn out to be your “future!”
Do Let Him Talk, Too.
We’re called “gossip girls” for a reason. We love to gab, gab, gab about everything and everyone. However, don’t get too caught up in hearing the sound of your own voice while on a first onine date at free Winnipeg backpage. A conversation consists of two people talking in a back and forth manner, a dialogue if you will. That means foregoing the drawn-out synopsis of last night’s season finale of The Real Housewives and instead bringing up topics that are mutually interesting to both of you. Also, it’s important to actively listen when he talks. Take note of what he is saying, not just of his beautiful blue eyes. This will go a long way in helping to cultivate a meaningful and interesting conversation.
Do Keep the Convo Lighthearted.
If you want your date to be called away suddenly in the middle of your dinner to attend to “an ailing grandmother” “a sick college buddy” or even “something that suddenly came up,” then by all means bring up your dream wedding, your unborn children’s names, and the list of men you’ve previously slept with. Not so keen on being left alone staring at your half eaten steak and the bill? Then stick to topics that are more first date suitable such as music, movies, hobbies, etc. Fueling a more lighthearted conversation will show your new guy that you are fun, easy-going, and someone he’d like to get to know better.